New Year, New You - Bulls@#t

New year new you 🤮 BULLSHIT

Hold on!! ... I’m not saying goals are bullshit. Resolutions…that’s borderline bullshit territory, but we’ll leave that subject for another time. A new year a new decade heck even a new week is a great time to look back at what you’ve achieved, how you’ve changed and reassess how you want to move forward set achievable and sometimes what seems to be impossible goals (I do this all the time and they are always changing) 

What I’m talking about being bullshit is the idea that simply because it’s a new year, you should change yourself. 

Screw that! 

There is nothing wrong with you! Your behaviour, maybe, but not you, as a person. That’s what I find objectionable about these stupid POSTs etc - They’re all about selling you something you don’t need to make a “new you” They’re all about guilt, and I have serious issues with anyone who attempts to guilt me into anything. 

Which brings me to my point, here - and I’m going to base this around exercise but it could be anything.

If you have to be guilted into exercising for a “new year new you” , or offered prizes to exercise etc you’re doing it wrong, that’s a wrong focus (in my view) If you need the excuse of a new year to find the discipline to exercise every day/x  per week/x per month, you’re doing it wrong.

“But , You said goals weren’t bullshit!”

You’re right. I did say that. But what I’m talking about above? Those aren’t goals. That’s being manipulated by guilt and I want you to exercise forever not just because you feel guilty. With me!? 

It’s one thing to say, “This year I’m going to exercise 5 x a week!” It’s another to say, “This year I WANT TO exercise 5x a week.”

One is a personal goal. The other is an arbitrary task. Do you know which is which? - The second one is the goal. The first one is the arbitrary task.

Want to know the difference? Well The task will make you feel like shit when you don’t get it done, and you will more likely give up. The second one the personal goal well it might make you feel like shit when you don’t get it done too 

However 

Goals are great. Goals are wonderful. You should have goals. They keep us moving forward. BUT! You shouldn’t feel like shit if you don’t reach your goal. Think of goals as more guidelines than actual rules. And they can always be changing,  let’s make them something we can actually accomplish .- don’t let yourself be guilted into anything, especially exercise. 

If you want a goal of something (like, I want to exercise 5x a week.) make the time to do it. Rearrange your schedule, whatever. Make the time. There’s time if you make it. Yes sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes we just are too tired and you know what that’s fine it doesn’t mean you’ve stepped away from your goal, or it’s not important to you it’s just life so don’t beat yourself up. don’t let anyone (including and especially yourself) guilt you into doing it.

So let’s call bullshit on “new year,  new you” cause like I said there’s nothing wrong with you - let’s focus on the little things like being kind to ourselves and others, focus on seeing the positive, surround ourselves with the best people, let’s laugh more, love harder (but not so hard you become like Joe off YOU) AND exercises because we love how it makes us feel (love/hate). 

So here’s to Being the best you not a new you. 

Our focus with our members is to get them to exercise because they want to feel fit, strong and healthy, weight loss if that’s something they would like, well it’s a side effect of this but never a goal and never reason to be guilted into exercise. If you have to be guilted/goaded/cajoled/bribed into moving your , then I think you need to find somewhere else to exercise because that is not fun, that is not real, that is not learning to move because you love how exercise makes you feel ...and you’re wanting to make changes that last a life time right!? - well guilt focus will not get you there and f#*k me that’s just not healthy mentally or physically.